“We then had to have the same conversations when we were first dating, and I learned that I cannot pretend to be OK with things.”Īngel explains that just because she is also a porn star, it does not mean her husband working in porn always feels OK. The tables have turned, and I feel like I’m the civilian dating someone in the industry. She explains she “went insane” after a girl her partner was seeing started posting things on social media, realizing there was a clear difference between his emotional intimacy with her, and the work she was doing.Ī post shared by Joanna Angel Aaron got into the industry - he goes by the stage name “Small Hands” - Angel began to experience what he used to feel. But I couldn’t handle it, I didn’t want an open relationship, but I felt due to my job I had to.” “I thought that’s what I needed to do to make it fair. “Before my relationship with Aaron, I dated another civilian, but I was feeling insecure about my job, so I told him to go and have fun with other girls. It’s a decision they made after she struggled with jealousy in a previous relationship. He didn’t feel like he was as good as the guys on set and it hurt his ego.”Īngel’s marriage with Aaron is monogamous. He was very honest with me when he felt insecure. But in the middle of the day, he would sometimes feel like he was going crazy. I would explain to him when I was on set that I’m the director as well, so I don’t have a lot of time to do texting and calling. “Aaron and I dated for a good month and I didn’t do any scenes, but then eventually that changed. Angel had promised herself she would never date another porn performer after a messy breakup, however, dating what she calls a “civilian” (someone outside of the porn industry) also has its challenges around the concept of going to work. Angel and Aaron at the 2018 Adult Video News Awards Getty ImagesĪngel and Aaron met six years ago, before he was in the adult industry. While it does involve two (or more people) engaging in sexual acts, it’s the fact that the intent is not the same as in real life and the intimacy is not there that allows some porn couples to keep their relationships monogamous off set. You will hear people say that porn sex is not real sex. That might be a difficult concept to get your head around considering they both get paid to have sex with other people for a living, but this also allows us to see how different sex is on screen. This is the case for Joanna Angel, an award-winning adult star, director, producer, author and CEO, and her husband Aaron, who is also an award-winning adult star.
For them, making the transference to porn is just a matter of being open and on screen.īut is it possible to be a porn star and still be monogamous?
I have met many couples in the adult industry who are in open relationships.